Although I hate being wrong I will be the first to admit that I am. I’ve spent a lot of time the past months doing some self reflection, and how I perceive the world. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and I have always believed that people are good at heart. But the older I get the more I realize that might be a little naïve. And as much as I want that to be true, I can’t help but admit that it’s not. It’s something I’ve held onto for a long time in hopes that I would start to see that come to light. However, over the course of the past few months I’m learning that no matter how much you open yourself up to people and no matter how much you try to be the good that brings out the best in other people, it doesn’t always work out that way. If you do not raise your standards on how you want people to treat you, there will always be people who take advantage of you.
"When you start seeing your worth, you'll find it harder to stay around people who don't."
Sooner or later, people are going to disappoint you. People you love and care about will betray you, but how you choose to respond, will change the course of your life. The trials and tribulations we face in our lifetime are crucial in understanding our worth. It’s a blessing in disguise isn’t it? You finally see someone’s true colors. We owe ourselves far too much to ever settle for less than what we’ve worked so hard to build. It took me 20+ years to see that people will not respect you as a people pleaser. The hard truth is, if you really want to help people, teach them how to stand up on their own. Sometimes, in order to be kind to ourselves and in order to be genuinely good people, you have to learn how to stand up for yourself, even when it does not fit the narrative of what others want. So do yourself a favor, see that you are worth far more; be the person you deserve and don’t let yourself settle. Sometimes that might require being selfish, because only then do we know how to truly be selfless to those we love.
“Reminder: you can be a good person with a kind heart and still tell people to fuck off.”